Do you all remember the song “Check Yo Self” by Ice Cube? Well maybe not, but the hook that so many people including myself took away is the “you betta check yo self before you wreck yo self” part. What that essentially means is that it’s very important for us to be transparent with ourselves first and it’s also a warning for others to do the same, before problems arise. Ha! The holidays are here and we will most likely spend a significant amount of time with people that we love and can’t stand.
That also means that the amount of drama and sarcasm that one person can normally dish out will multiply by a significant amount during a short period of time. Ha! While we can’t control how they behave, we can control our own reaction. Now, I’m not just talking to you, I’m talking to myself as well. People seem to sometimes think that the holiday visits with family are the times to become sarcastic, rude, and mean. I don’t know why, but the holidays truly bring out the worst in some people. The important thing is to make sure that it isn’t you. Check yo self when there is tension in the room. Check yo self when the family doesn’t want to invite you to the fun. Check yo self if everyone in the room has a problem with you, but appears to get along with everyone else just fine. You just might be the problem. Yikes! If you find that you, in fact, haven’t done anything wrong, let it go. Don’t respond with the funny Christmas clap backs. Ha! Be the bigger person for the umpteenth time, but don’t be anyone’s punching bag, fool, or jester. It’s okay to sometimes remove your self from the room or situation. Make sure that you are not commenting on someone’s weight gain for the current year. The holidays are also not the time to pry into everyone’s personal lifestyle. Enjoy one another and strive to be peaceful. I know it’s really hard with some people. Ugh! Remember that some people are angry and mean to you because they are unhappy with their own lives or choices. Some people are also hurting during the holidays because they miss family members that have gone to be with the Lord. Some people are so financially strained during the holidays that when they see others enjoying material things they become envious and upset. Enjoy the holidays regardless of those people cranky behaviors and just make sure that you are not the real problem. Merry Christmas to you and your family!